Are you a control freak? Do you always feel the need to have total control over yourself, people, and situations? Do you always push to have things go your way and get upset if they don’t? While I appreciate the need to plan and live your life in a deliberate manner and with a firm grip of your world, it is good to appreciate that you can never really be in control of things, people and circumstances.
Letting go or the art of allowing is the realization that your world will not collapse if you stopped pushing or simply took a break to rest or to simply observe things. Simply being optimistic and grateful that life will always collaborate with you to create a great experience full of enjoyment, learning, fulfilment and growth is paramount to our well-being. Rather than trying to order things in a certain way, I am now appreciating that a more fulfilling life might call for a more calm and accepting approach. Am I saying that we should not hustle to create a better life? Certainly not. What I am saying is that sometimes we wrestle with life so much that it leaves us deflated, often times blaming ourselves and other people, faulting events and circumstances and basically grudging with life.
Letting go means allowing yourself to be more appreciative, letting go of judgement and rising above the inner pressure and struggles by simply living life. It means make peace with all things as they are as opposed to spending thought, time and energy trying to resist them and change them. It is about experiencing the true beauty of life rather than focusing on the pain and discomfort.
This might be difficult if you are the kind of a person who likes poking his or her nose into other people’s business, judging their character, correcting their mistakes, manipulating their opinions or even influencing their behavior. It might equally be uncomfortable for you is you are the kind of a person who takes sole credit for all the blessings in your life.
The art of allowing is described as the ability to flow with the current as opposed to steering the oars upstream. I know what you could be thinking. Am I not the master of my own fate and the captain of my own ship? Well, you are. In our quest to be deliberate about our lives, setting goals and working towards a future that we carefully want to shape for ourselves, we tend to forget that we cannot argue with reality. We assume that it is our responsibility to fix situations and people including ourselves. The revelation here is that having the faith, trust and patience to realize that whatever our hearts desires will manifest in our lives at the right time. Trying to run our lives as though everything is upto us will often leave us exhausted and unfulfilled. Often times, we will blame ourselves or others or events when we deem that our goals are not supported. True success and fulfillment will always elude us.
I guess that this is a challenge to many my self-included but may be a wakeup call here is to align our thoughts and energy with our creator, sending our desires and trusting that the universe is unfolding as it should be and that everything is and will be well.
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